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		<description><![CDATA[<blockquote>This post is a response to the increasingly heated thread at Feministe on <a href="http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2006/06/02/study-finds-female-genital-mutilation-increases-risk-that-mothers-or-their-babies-will-die-in-childbirth-by-50/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2006/06/02/study-finds-female-genital-mutilation-increases-risk-that-mothers-or-their-babies-will-die-in-childbirth-by-50/?referer=');">Female Genital Cutting</a> (FGC).  Nearly every mention of FGC in our society elicits condemnation of the practices and the people who practice them as "bestial", "barbarian", "inhuman", "uncivilized", "heinous", etc., which has a tendency to set me off.  For a long time I've wondered about the incredible and disproportional response FGC incites in Westerners, feminists and non-feminists alike, responses which generally are very far removed from the reported responses and experiences of women who have undergone some form of <a href="http://dwax.org/2006/06/05/female_genital_cutting__sexuality__and_anti-fgc_advocacy/">[Continue reading]</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>This post is a response to the increasingly heated thread at Feministe on <a href="http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2006/06/02/study-finds-female-genital-mutilation-increases-risk-that-mothers-or-their-babies-will-die-in-childbirth-by-50/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2006/06/02/study-finds-female-genital-mutilation-increases-risk-that-mothers-or-their-babies-will-die-in-childbirth-by-50/?referer=');">Female Genital Cutting</a> (FGC).  Nearly every mention of FGC in our society elicits condemnation of the practices and the people who practice them as &#8220;bestial&#8221;, &#8220;barbarian&#8221;, &#8220;inhuman&#8221;, &#8220;uncivilized&#8221;, &#8220;heinous&#8221;, etc., which has a tendency to set me off.  For a long time I&#8217;ve wondered about the incredible and disproportional response FGC incites in Westerners, feminists and non-feminists alike, responses which generally are very far removed from the reported responses and experiences of women who have undergone some form of FGC.  Since I was obviously not able to make a meaningful intervention at Feministe, being limited by both the &#8220;sound-bite&#8221; nature of a comment thread and the increasingly furious response to my posts, I decided it would be best to bow out of that discussion before someone burst a vein (especially if that someone was me!) and build my arguments in the less-limited space of my own blog.</p>
<p>This post turned out to be well over 6,000 words (including footnotes and references) &#8212; for those who find reading long documents online uncomfortable, I have posted a <a href="http://dwax.org/wp-content/uploads/Dustin-M-Wax-Female-Genital-Cutting.pdf">PDF of the post</a> (with minimal formatting) that can be downloaded and printed.</p></blockquote>
<p>Few aspects of global women&#8217;s lives attract the kind of attention that Female Genital Cutting (FGC) <super><a href="#footnote1" name="return1">1</a></super> has in the last decade or so.  <a href="http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs241/en/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs241/en/?referer=');">According to the World Health Organization</a> (WHO), approximately 100 &#8211; 140 million women living in 28 African nations (and a handful of women in Asia and the Middle East) have undergone some form of FGC.  FGC practices include the cutting of the labia or clitoris, removal of the prepuce (clitoral hood), removal of the external part of the clitoris and/or the inner labia, and sewing up the vaginal opening, and any combination of these practices.  Although often found in Muslim societies, FGC is not specifically Muslim and is looked down upon by most non-African Muslims; most likely such practices pre-date the introduction if Islam into North Africa and were carried forward with new meanings as groups converted.</p>
<p>Western attention on FGC has focused on two aspects: the potential health impact on women undergoing these procedures, and the potential impact on women&#8217;s ability to engage in and enjoy sexual intercourse.  Because data in both areas has been scarce &#8211; the worldwide interest in FGC developed fairly recently, so long-term health trends are only now beginning to be apparent, and data on sexual enjoyment is nearly impossible to compile in any meaningful sense &#8211; FGC has proven an empty template for the projection of Western conceptions of sex and sexuality and their relation to individual identity.  Most arguments against FGC see these practices as an attempt by native men to control the sexuality of &#8220;their&#8221; women, by reducing the ability of women to enjoy sex and therefore reducing the likelihood that they will engage in sex for any reason other than wifely duty.  While people in some societies do describe their particular practices in such terms, this is hardly universal; women are just as likely to describe the empowerment and control they feel as a result of their procedures.  Responses to FGC among the women who undergo such procedures are complex and nuanced, in a way that Western responses absolutely are not.</p>
<p>This piece has two aims.<span id="more-830"></span>  The first is to explore some of the ways that women who have undergone FGC talk about the practices of their own societies, both in first-person accounts and in second-hand accounts that make up the ethnographic record.  The second is to look into the wide gap between the experiences recorded in the ethnographic record and the discourses that make up Western anti-FGC advocacy. What emerges is, I think, a classic example of the formulation put forth by Gayatri Spivak: &#8220;white men [and women] saving brown women from brown men&#8221; (1988).  Spivak&#8217;s seminal article, &#8220;Can the Subaltern Speak?&#8221;, points to the willingness of the privileged to speak for and about the less privileged, generally in ways that reflect more the concerns of the privileged than anything familiar to the actual lives of the subaltern.  In the case of anti-FGC advocacy, the voice of &#8220;brown women&#8221; is almost entirely absent, literally silenced by an insistence that the horrendousness of the practice precludes any possible positive evaluation, and therefore the only valid voices are those that condemn FGC. All contradictory testimony is dismissed as the result of &#8220;brainwashing&#8221;, &#8220;false consciousness&#8221;, &#8220;fear of male reprisal&#8221;, &#8220;anti-Westernism&#8221;, &#8220;ignorance&#8221;, or other forms of willful or unwillful complicity.  For instance, Mary Daly wrote of women&#8217;s participation in carrying out these procedures, &#8220;Mentally castrated, these women participate in the destruction of their own kind&#8221; (1978, quoted in Walley 1997: 419).<super><a href="#footnote2" name="return2">2</a></super></p>
<h2>Context</h2>
<p>Since few Westerners aside from those directly involved in FGC advocacy or research are familiar with the ethnographic context in which FGC occurs, I will begin by offering short descriptions of several different procedures and the conditions under which they occur.  Given the wide range of procedures involved and cultural complexes in which they are situated, this does not aim to be anything like a representative sample &#8211; there are hundreds if not thousands of culturally-unique practices that are lumped under the heading of &#8220;FGC&#8221;.  Procedures can be found taking place in elaborate ritual ceremonies, generally associated with a woman&#8217;s coming of age, or they can be performed by trained midwives under pseudo-medical conditions (some would have them done in hospitals, but as FGC is illegal in nearly every country in which it occurs, this is not a possibility) to either very young girls several years off from reaching maturity or to older women well past the age of maturity.  There simply is no &#8220;typical&#8221; practice.</p>
<p>Consider the Mende of West Africa. After the onset of menarche (first menstruation), a group of girls are taken into the wilderness for a coming-of-age ritual lasting weeks or even months.  During this time, they dress in short skirts and strings of beads, their bodies smeared with a white clay mixture that is intended to protect them from malicious supernatural forces during the incredibly vulnerable transition period.  The rites are led by women from the <em>Sande</em>, the women&#8217;s society into which the girls are being initiated, who will teach their charges the meanings and obligations of womanhood in Mende culture.  The rites are characterized by a great deal of singing, dancing, story-telling, and feasting, creating a festive, celebratory atmosphere reflective of the value placed on womanhood. Surrounded by their friends and mentors, the girls undergo the removal of the external clitoris and part of the labia minora, the pain of which is meant to mimic and prepare them for the pain of childbirth.  The ritual is a promise of solidarity for the Mende &#8211; as they undergo the pain of clitoridectomy surrounded by and supported by the women of their community, so shall they experience the pain of childbirth and the other sufferings that life may have in store for them.  The procedure also removes the last vestige of maleness from the female body, as the male circumcision removes the last vestige of femaleness from the penis; female genitals are totally hidden and internal after the procedure, as male genitals are fully exposed and external after theirs.  Upon completion of their training, the new-fledged women are bathed in a special brew of herbs and leaves, removing the magical protection, and reintroduced to their communities as women fully cognizant and in control of their sexuality (Haviland <em>et al.</em> 2005: 352).  </p>
<p>Other FGC procedures occur in the virtual absence of ceremony.  Among the people studied by Janice Boddy in Sudan (she calls them the &#8220;Hofriyat&#8221; to protect their identity), genital cutting procedures are performed in a relatively straight-forward, medicalized fashion, without any concurrent religious observations.  The Hofriyat practice what they call &#8220;Pharaonic circumcision&#8221;, the removal of the clitoris and labia minora followed by the closing up of the vaginal opening.  The procedure today is performed by a trained midwife and with the use of anesthesia, and using modern equipment; before 1969, it was practiced by elder women, without anesthesia, who used L-shaped thorns to close the vaginal opening.  Boddy describes a procedure she witnessed:<br />
<blockquote>A crowd of women, many of them grandmothers, has gathered outside the room, not a man in sight. A dozen hands push me forward. &#8220;You&#8217;ve got to see this up close,&#8221; says Zaineb, &#8220;it&#8217;s important.&#8221; I dare not confess my reluctance.  The girl is lying on an <em>angareeb</em> (native bed), her body supported by several adult kinswomen.  Two of these hold her legs apart. Then she is administered a local anesthetic by injection.  In the silence of the next few moments, Miriam takes a pair of what look to me like children&#8217;s paper scissors and quickly cuts away the girl&#8217;s clitoris and labia minora.  She tells me this is the <em>lahme djewa</em> (the inside flesh).  I am surprised that there is so little blood.  Then she takes a surgical needle from her midwife&#8217;s kit, threads it with suture, and sews together the labia majora, leaving a small opening at the vulva.  After a liberal application of antiseptic, it is all over.</p>
<p>The young girl seems to be experiencing more shock than pain, and I wonder if the anesthetic has finally taken effect.  The women briefly trill their joyous ululation and we adjourn to the courtyard for tea.  While we wait, the sisters receive the ritual ornaments that will protect them from harm as they recuperate (1997: 310).</p></blockquote>
<p> Among the Hofriyat, the performance of the Pharaonic circumcision does not transform one into a woman; it makes her marriageable, but she does not assume full womanhood until she is actually married.  </p>
<p>Although in the vast majority of cases it is women who perform and attend FGC procedures, in some areas this is a man&#8217;s responsibility.  Many people have seen the mid-90&#8242;s film produced and aired by CNN that depicts a screaming girl held down while a male barber performs the operation.  Although the film was widely criticized for its lack of cultural sensitivity and contextualization, forcing CNN to defend itself against numerous lawsuits, nobody seems to deny that FGCs do occur in this manner.  In other places, FGC is wholly dissociated from the transition to womanhood, sometimes occurring as early as age 4 or 5 or some time after she has assumed womanhood. The Bedouin women in Lila Abu-Lughod&#8217;s  <em>Writing Women&#8217;s Worlds</em> suggest that infibulation might be practiced as an occasional thing, to assure a husband that his wife or wives are faithful while he&#8217;s away (1993: 106-7).  </p>
<h2>Responses</h2>
<p>With such a wide range of practices and of meanings attached to them, one would suspect that there would be a wide range of responses by women who live in societies where FGC is practiced, and one would be correct.  I do not intend here to represent the entire range of possible responses; the mainstream media is over-saturated with voices condemning FGC which, while they may represent the mainstream of Western thought, do not seem to correspond with the responses of even those native women who actively oppose FGC.  My intention here is not to represent fully the complexity of the issue but rather to <em>restore</em> some of the complexity that is often glossed over in debates among Westerners.  </p>
<p>Given the unremitting horror with which FGC is reported and discussed among Westerners, it may come as a surprise that many women in societies that practice FGC utterly reject the description of themselves as &#8220;victims&#8221;.  In an interview with anthropologist Fuambai Ahmadu, a Kono woman named Leunita exclaimed:<br />
<blockquote>What gets me mad, is when people say we are &#8216;victims&#8217;. And I say, victims of what? The women of the Bundu [cut women] are not victims! For us, the one you would have to pity is the woman who is not of the Bundu! (Burdick)</p></blockquote>
<p> For Kono women like Leunita (and Ahmadu herself; see below), FGC is both a source of and recognition of the power women wield in the world. &#8220;The secret power we exercise &#8212; and why men fear us &#8212; is our ability to have children. Without being cut, the ancestresses will not want to release to you the powers of your own body&#8221; (<em>Ibid.</em>).  Boddy noted a similar concern with fertility among the Hofriyat, where she reads FGC as a de-emphasis of (external) sensuality and enhancement of the (internal) reproductive capacity.  Thus women are defined &#8211; define themselves &#8211; not as objects for the sexual gratification of men (or of themselves) but as &#8220;mothers of men&#8221;, men who, as she assumes eldership in the society, will &#8220;listen to&#8221; her and through which she will exercise power in her community (313-4).  </p>
<p>Fuambai Ahmadu is an interesting spokesperson for women who perform and undergo FGC.  A Kono woman herself, educated at the London School of Economics, at the age of 22 Ahmadu decided to return to Sierra Leone and complete the traditional coming-of-age ritual.  In justifying her decision, Ahmadu wrote:<br />
<blockquote>It is difficult for me &#8211; considering the number of ceremonies I have observed, including my own &#8211; to accept that what appears to be expressions of joy and ecstatic celebrations of womanhood in actuality disguise hidden experiences of coercion and subjugation.  Indeed, I offer that the bulk of Kono women who uphold these rituals do so because they want to &#8211; they relish the supernatural powers of their ritual leaders over against men in society, and they embrace the legitimacy of female authority and particularly, the authority of their mothers and grandmothers. (2000, quoted in Shweder 2003: 169).</p></blockquote>
<p>About as widespread as beliefs about reproductivity are concerns about aesthetics.  Nearly all women in societies that practice FGC describe circumcised or otherwise cut genitals as more attractive than uncut genitals.  Indeed, it is for this reason that many researchers reject the term &#8220;female genital <em>mutilation</em>&#8220;, which is preferred by many advocates; very few women see their genitals as &#8220;mutilated&#8221; by FGC. As Sandra Lane and Robert Rubinstein note:<br />
<blockquote>Among these groups, in fact, the resulting appearance is considered an improvement over female genitalia in their natural state&#8230;. In the rural Egyptian hamlet where we have conducted fieldwork some women were not familiar with groups that did not circumcise their girls. When they learned that the female researcher was not circumcised their response was disgust mixed with joking laughter. They wondered how she could have thus gotten married and questioned how her mother could have neglected such an important part of her preparation for womanhood (1996: 35). </p></blockquote>
<p>Luanita told Ahmadu that &#8220;I think one of the most beautiful things is after a woman is cut. There can be no question that she is more beautiful that way. Very beautiful&#8221; (Burdick). The Hofriyati women in Boddy&#8217;s study described their cut genitals as clean, smooth, and pure (313), assessments which are in agreement with similar descriptions across the range of FGC-practicing societies (Shweder: 181).</p>
<p>Given these positive assessments of such practices, it is not surprising that an overwhelming number of women choose to have their daughters cut.<br />
<blockquote>According to the Sudan Demographic and Health Survey of 1989-90 conducted in northern and central Sudan, of 3,805 women interviewed, 89 percent were circumcised. Of the women that were circumcised, 96 percent said they had or would circumcise their daughters. When asked whether they favored continuation of the practice, 90 percent of circumcised woman said they favored its continuation (Shweder: 179).</p></blockquote>
<p>The women interviewed by Land and Rubinstein were no exceptions:<br />
<blockquote>In interviews we conducted in rural and urban Egypt and in studies conducted by faculty of the High Institute of Nursing, Zagazig University, Egypt, the overwhelming majority of circumcised women planned to have the procedure performed on their daughters (35).</p></blockquote>
<h2>Sexuality</h2>
<p>Although health concerns make up the public face of anti-FGC activism, it is the issue of sexuality that is the &#8220;hook&#8221; in mainstream debates.  Many of the claimed health risks associated with FGC have been discredited (Obermeyer 2003) and many of those that haven&#8217;t are risks associated with a wide range of other practices that attract little or no attention.  For example, any cutting of the body provides a vector for infection, but there is very little outcry about the scarification practices that often accompany or occupy the same place as FGC in coming-of-age rituals.  This is not to say there are no health risks associated with FGC, but rather that the attention paid to those health risks is greater because of the salacious interest in women&#8217;s sexuality.</p>
<p>The root of this concern is the loss of sexual pleasure associated with damage to or removal of the clitoris.  Since the release of the Masters and Johnson&#8217;s <em>Human Sexual Response</em> (1966) and especially <em>The Hite Report: A Nationwide Study of Female Sexuality</em> (1976; excerpts in Hite 2006), the clitoris has been recognized as central to women&#8217;s ability to reach orgasm.  It thus stands to reason that the loss of this organ would reduce women&#8217;s ability to have orgasm and, therefore, to enjoy sex.  </p>
<p>Compounding the loss of the clitoris is the discomfort and even pain that may accompany intercourse for women who have undergone FGC.  Most procedures leave some degree of scar tissue, which may make sex uncomfortable or painful, and infibulation greatly restricts the vaginal opening, which can cause significant pain in some women.  </p>
<p>It may be surprising, then, that many, though by no means all, women who have experienced FGC are able to engage in and enjoy sex.  In one medical study cited by Obermeyer (407), 43% of women who had some form of FGC experienced a lack of orgasms, while only 18% of those who had not undergone FGC had the same problem (another study found a 12% rate of anorgasmia; Obermeyer&#8217;s review found the methodology of both studies to be highly suspect).  While this is a significant effect, it bears noting that 57% of women who had had FGCs were therefore achieving orgasm.  It also bears noting that studies of <em>American</em> women claim that as many as 40% have never experienced orgasm (<a href=" http://www.health24.com/sex/Problems/1253-1264,22052.asp">Health24</a>). </p>
<p>On the other hand, many women express clear satisfaction with their sex lives.  At a Swedish conference on female circumcision, a Somali woman spoke up to make her satisfaction quite clear:<br />
<blockquote>A Swedish minister raised his voice during the seminar and expressed his resentment at the fact that so many women were deprived of their possibility to feel sexual pleasure. Then a Somali woman in the audience stood up, turned to this man and the rest of the audience, and talked about her own experiences. In a calm and a bit shy voice, she witnessed that she herself was infibulated, but that she had a rich and satisfying sexual life despite this state of her genitals (Johnsdotter, <em>et al.</em> 2004: 2.</p></blockquote>
<p>Ellen Gruenbaum was also confronted by women who insisted that they &#8220;finished&#8221; during sex:<br />
<blockquote>I pressed for a clearer description. Somewhat exasperated that I didn&#8217;t seem to understand plain Arabic, a visiting midwife named Miriam grabbed my hand, squeezed my fingers, and said, &#8220;Look, Ellen, some of us do &#8216;finish.&#8217; It feels like electricity, like this . . . &#8221; and she flicked her finger sharply and rhythmically against my constricted fingers. [2001; quoted in Gruenbaum 2006: 127]</p></blockquote>
<p>While the capacity for sexual pleasure is to some degree affected by the extent of cutting involved, there are clear cultural factors at work as well.  Fuambai Ahmadu says that many women who, like herself, had sexual experience before their excision may experience no difference or even increased sensitivity (in Bell 2005: 138), which suggests that the ability to experience sexual pleasure is learned and subject to training.  Among the Sabaots studied by Christine Walley, for instance, earlier anthropologists had noticed extensive &#8211; and socially sanctioned &#8211; sex play to the point of orgasm between young men and women who had not yet experienced FGC (although penetration was explicitly forbidden) (1997: 415-6).  Given the commonness of extramarital affairs among both men and women in this society, it seems likely that women continue to enjoy sex throughout their lives &#8211; and that perhaps this early development of sexual faculties helps prepare women for whatever loss of physical sensation they may experience after their initiations. </p>
<p><a href="http://www.artsci.wustl.edu/~anthro/courses/306/fgc.html" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.artsci.wustl.edu/_anthro/courses/306/fgc.html?referer=');">The chart</a> reproduced from Orubuloye <em>et al.</em> (2000) presents an interesting comparison between the responses of urban and rural Yoruba women to their FGCs.  Asked &#8220;Whether they believe their &#8216;circumcision&#8217; has reduced their enjoyment of sexual activity&#8221;, 53% of rural women replied that it had increased their enjoyment of sex (with another 40% saying it had no effect either way) while only 16% of urban women answered the same (with the same number saying it had decreased their enjoyment of sex, and 63% citing no effect either way).  These figures suggest a significant difference in the way rural and urban women experienced their bodily sensations in general and sex specifically. </p>
<p>Anthropologists have long recognized a difference (or, rather, set of differences) in the personality formation typical to, on one hand, agriculturalists and pastoralists, and on the other, urban dwellers and foragers (see, e.g. Barry <em>et al.</em> 1959).  In societies where subsistence is dependent on long-range planning and the cooperation of their members, personality formation emphasizes obedience, solidarity, and responsibility, a complex generically referred to as &#8220;dependence training&#8221;.  Dependence training is generally associated with agriculture and herding, where individual initiative or deviance from tradition can have disastrous consequences &#8211; for instance, by failing to produce an adequate harvest, or by weakening the overall quality of the herd.  In societies where resources are accumulated on a day to day basis &#8211; the hunting and gathering of foragers, for instance, or the hourly wages of urban employees &#8211; the need for such interdependence is significantly weaker and individual initiative, achievement, and self-reliance are emphasized through &#8220;independence training&#8221;.  There are many different practices that contribute to overall enculturation, ranging from infant feeding patterns to playtime activities to punishment regimes to the assignment of household chores; the treatment of sexuality is an important factor in how an individual will relate to the rest of their society.  Where independence is important, individual desire and achievement of its satisfaction is emphasized; children are often encouraged to experiment freely with sexuality, and adults choose their own mates.  Where dependence is important, on the contrary, individual sexuality is a resource of the community, and individuals are assured that their needs will be addressed by and for the community as a whole; childhood sexuality may be allowed but subject to clear rules, and marriages tend to be arranged.  The potential for conflict posed by sexuality is a much greater threat in agricultural and herding communities, where the smooth interrelation of members and lineages is necessary to survival.</p>
<p>These differences are linked to another, related factor: the role of consumption in a society.  Jonathan Ned Katz (2004) has detailed how American conceptions of the meaning and function of sex changed as the US was transformed into a largely rural, agriculture-based society to a largely-urban, industrialized one, and I think the general outline can be applied wherever such transformations have occurred or are occurring. In pre-industrial America, Katz writes, &#8220;Middle-class white Americans idealized a True Womanhood, True Manhood, and True Love, all characterized by &#8220;purity&#8221; &#8211; the freedom from sensuality&#8230;. The human body was thought of as a means toward procreation and production; penis and vagina were instruments of reproduction, not of pleasure.  Human energy&#8230; was to be used in producing children and in work, not wasted in libidinous pleasures&#8221; (70).  With the shift of the vast bulk of the American population into urban centers, and consequently from a lifestyle in which the bulk of their subsistence was produced and processed by themselves to an economy characterized by the consumption of goods and services produced by others, notions of sexuality changed.<br />
<blockquote>The transformation of the family from producer to consumer unit resulted in a change in family members&#8217; relation to their own bodies; from being an instrument primarily of work, the human body was integrated into a new economy, and began more commonly to be perceived as a means of consumption and pleasure (71).</p></blockquote>
<p>It seems very likely that the way rural and urban women experience sex and perceive the effect of FGC is very different, practically incommensurable.  This hypothesis is lent credence by the work of Sara Johnsdotter and Birgitta Essén with Somali, Eritrean, and Ethiopian refugees now resident in Sweden. In interviews, Johnsdotter and Essén were surprised to find that their interlocutors were quite willing to speak frankly about sex, and that many of them expressed contentment with their sex lives:<br />
<blockquote> [Omar interprets the words of a Somali woman in her 50s:] &#8211; <em>Even we who have pharaonic circumcision, we never have problems</em>. [The three of us start laughing, since the woman with her facial expression shows that she alludes on sex.][The woman speaks again and Omar interprets:] &#8211; <em>Maybe we are more sexual than you</em> [everyone laughs again]&#8230;<em> and we don&#8217;t have any problems&#8230;She says we have nothing, no problems and good sex. We are equal in that. We are like Swedish women; maybe we are more&#8230;active. And everything comes from the heart and comes from the pain you know.</em>[Johnsdotter says:] &#8211; <em>But&#8230;the wedding night&#8230;</em>[Omar interprets:] &#8211; <em>It was worst that night. It was something that you never forget, but after that it is good</em> (2).</p></blockquote>
<p>In their interviews, though, many of the women noted explicitly that this was not something they had ever thought about prior to coming to Sweden, and compare their experiences not with those of other refugees, with whom they claim to have never spoken of such matters, but &#8211; like the woman above &#8211; with Swedish women.  For many, like the elderly Ethiopian woman quoted below, it was not until they came to Sweden that they even thought about FGC as something that had happened to them ,that they should have thoughts about:<br />
<blockquote> [Johnsdotter asks:] &#8211; <em>Do you remember when you first heard of it [female circumcision] in Sweden?</em>[An Ethiopian woman in her 60s:] &#8211; <em>I think it was in -&#8217;80. Maybe -&#8217;83.- What did you hear then?- There was talk about circumcision, and that it is no good, that you destroy the girl&#8217;s sexuality and all that, and that it is something bad.- What did you think when you heard that?- Well&#8230; I thought that it is probably true. In our country we were raised to&#8230; Those who come from [a district where girls are not circumcised], they are different in their behaviour towards a man or a boy. Yes&#8230; their sexuality&#8230; behaviour&#8230; well, they are sexier, you could say. They behave differently&#8230; when it comes to intercourse- Are you talking about ability to enjoy&#8230;?- Yes. If they are not circumcised.- Did you think of this while you lived in Ethiopia?- No, I never thought of it then. Nobody does.</em>(5; bold emphasis added).</p></blockquote>
<h2>Action</h2>
<p>Although not all assessments of FGC are positive or even mixed (as some of the responses reported above are), the wide range of responses suggests that the terms in which much anti-FGC advocacy &#8211; and, even moreso, mainstream responses &#8211; couch their opposition to these practices are overly simplified and based not so much on the lived experiences of the Africa women on whose behalf they claim to speak but on their own, culturally-bound perceptions of these practices, what I call the &#8220;if-it-was-me&#8221; response.  While I believe that it is possible to attain some degree of understanding of the experiences of people vastly different from one&#8217;s self, doing so requires an effort that very few are willing or even able to muster.  However, I believe such an effort is necessary and vital where FGC is concerned, as the potential for damaging and counter-productive action is significant.  Even where our actions may not impact the lives of African women, the way FGC is spoken about in Western society is often racist, ethnocentric, and disrespectful of the lives and cultures of the women who experience FGC.</p>
<p>This piece is not intended as a defense of FGC or even to dissuade activism intended to help women for whom FGC is a part of their daily lives.  Rather, it is hoped that by complicating the over-simplified representations that make up the bulk of anti-FGC discussions, more effective action can be developed that, while it may not directly address the end of FGC, can improve the lives of women overall and indirectly address the issue at hand.  </p>
<p>I am hardly alone or even in the lead with these concerns.  African Anti-FGC activists have been bitter in their condemnation of efforts by Western &#8220;supporters&#8221; on their behalf.  <a href=" http://www.rainbo.org/whoweare/toubia.html">Nahid Toubia</a>, founder and president of the anti-FGC group Research, Action, and Information Network for the Bodily Integrity of Women (RAINBO), has argued that:<br />
<blockquote>The West has acted as though they have suddenly discovered a dangerous epidemic which they then sensationalized in international women&#8217;s forums creating a backlash of over-sensitivity in the concerned communities. They have portrayed it as irrefutable evidence of the barbarism and vulgarity of underdeveloped countries&#8230; It became a conclusive vindication of the primitiveness of Arabs, Muslims and Africans all in one blow (quoted in Lane <em>et al.</em>: 36).</p></blockquote>
<p>Alice Walker&#8217;s film <em>Warrior Marks</em> and novel <em>Possessing the Secret of Joy</em>, which have done so much to consolidate anti-FGC sentiments in the US, have come in for special abuse by African activists such as Seble Dawit and Salem Mekuria for portraying a village in which &#8220;the respected elder women of the village&#8217;s secret society turn into slit-eyed murderers wielding rusted weapons with which to butcher children&#8221;, to which the &#8220;heroine-savior&#8221; Walker has come to &#8220;articulate their pain&#8221; (1993; quoted in Walley: 428).   </p>
<p>The UN Decade for Women (1975 &#8211; 85) turned into a platform for such criticism of Western feminist anti-FGC work when a group of African women threatened to walk out of the mid-decade conference in Copenhagen in 1980, objecting to both the tactics of  First World anti-FGC activists and to the overall power dynamics between Western and non-Western women (<em>Ibid.</em>: 419). As the example of Alice Walker&#8217;s book, written over a decade later, and ongoing mainstream concern about FGC illustrate, very little has changed in Westerner&#8217;s conceptions of the problems with FGC and what should be done about it. </p>
<p>This criticism is not intended to convince Western women to &#8220;butt out&#8221; of issues they have no business being concerned with; rather, the issue is how Western feminists and other activists will use their power and privilege in relation to non-Western women&#8217;s lives.  As Kenyan anthropologist Achola Pala-Okeyo puts it, &#8220;the role of [Western] feminists is not to be in front, leading the way for other women, but to be in back <em>supporting</em> the other women&#8217;s struggles to bring about change&#8221; (quoted in Walley: 430).  This is good advice in general; however, the complexity of FGC and its embeddedness in local cultural practices suggests that the focus on the eradication of FGC is misplaced altogether.  It is not a simple matter of recognizing the importance of FGC as a &#8220;tradition&#8221;, educating natives about the potential health risks associated with it, and creating new, more acceptable alternatives; FGC is deeply imbrecated with local and global economic structures that need to be taken into account. What African women need is not the elimination of FGC; they need adequate health care and economic well-being <em>regardless</em> of whether FGC continues to be practiced or not.</p>
<p>One of the major contributing factors to the persistence of FGC, despite 30 years of intense Western opposition preceded by 70 years of colonial opposition, is the ongoing economic inequality that shapes women&#8217;s lives.  As Lane and Rubinstein note (following Gruenbaum), &#8220;economic changes associated with development increased women&#8217;s economic dependency on men, which caused them to focus on maintaining &#8216;their marriageability and  to prevent divorce by keeping husbands sexually and reproductively satisfied&#8217;.  The resulting economic insecurity made it extremely unlikely that parents would risk leaving their daughters uncircumcised&#8221; (34).  These economic changes also made the solidarity with other women engendered by FGC incredibly important.  In places where other means of establishing women&#8217;s solidarity have been established &#8211; such as local savings circles, environmental groups, and cooperative enterprises &#8211; the practice of FGC has decreased (Walley: 418).  This suggests that Western energy is likely better spent on ameliorating the effects of globalization and promoting strong local associations than in confronting FGC directly &#8211; which is often perceived by local men and women as an extension of the imperialism and global capitalism that engender resistance to anti-FGC efforts.</p>
<p>While the medical evidence remains cloudy or inconclusive, it seems clear that no medical benefit comes of FGC and that some degree of harm is inflicted by many of the practices. <a href="#footnote3" name="return3">3</a></super>  Given the unlikelihood that FGC will cease in the immediate future, the resistance Western activists have posed to medicalization seems cruel and inhuman.  Most of the potential medical dangers posed by FGC can be eliminated or drastically reduced by access to adequate health care, both in the performance of the procedures and in dealing with any complications that arise.  While there may be some truth to the contention that allowing FGC to be performed under hospital conditions will delay its eradication, this seems a reasonable trade-off for the suffering that might be alleviated.  This argument should not be foreign to Western feminists, many of whom have relied on a similar argument in defending the availability of abortion.</p>
<p>On an ideological level, it is imperative that Westerners, <em>particularly</em> Western feminists, abandon the moral condemnation in which their opposition to FGC is so frequently couched.  Lane and Rubinstein write that:<br />
<blockquote>[T]hese procedures&#8230; are not torture, but are arranged and paid for by loving parents who deeply believe that the surgeries are for their daughters&#8217; welfare.  Parents fear, with much justification, that leaving their daughters uncircumcised will make them unmarriageable.  Parents worry about their daughters during the procedures and care for their wounds afterward to help them recover.  Even if we disagree with the practice of female circumcision, we must remember that the parents who do this are not monsters, but are ordinary, decent, caring persons (38).</p></blockquote>
<p>Feminists have long recognized the relationship between sexism, classism, and racism; challenging what many see as a sexist practice through the use of racist discourses backed by Western power and privilege cannot be taken as an adequate response to FGC.  </p>
<p>What&#8217;s more, objections to FGC in the West may well be as sexist as they are racist.  As Ahmadu notes (quoted in Bell: 138), Western anti-FGC discourses suggest a conception of both gender and sexuality that feminists have long opposed:<br />
<blockquote>One&#8230; assumption is that human bodies are &#8220;complete&#8221; and that sex is &#8220;given&#8221; at birth. A second assumption is that the clitoris represents an integral aspect of femininity and has a central erotic function in women&#8217;s sexuality.</p></blockquote>
<p> Many FGC practices are based on the explicit contention that women are made, not born &#8211; a formulation not entirely unthinkable to Western feminists.  Neither gender not sexuality are fixed in the body; both are constructed from both physiological and cultural realities.  The notions that the physiological function of the clitoris is the only valid part of sexual experience or that orgasm is the only measure of the pleasurableness of sex would not only be rejected by most Western feminists but are directly contradicted by the claimed experience of African women themselves.Female genital cutting represents a challenging test of Western ideals and highlights the ongoing contradiction between, on one hand, the desire to end unnecessary suffering and, on the other, the desire to respect cultural and individual autonomy.  It is difficult to accept that practices that seem most clearly to demand outside intervention might be the ones we should think twice about interfering with, or that the suffering engendered by those practices might be preferable to the dangers posed by such intervention. While opposition to FGC is not necessarily bad in and of itself, it is important to remember that FGC does not exist in a vacuum, that the anti-FGC movement is just the latest in a long string of Western intervention in native practices carried out &#8220;for their own good&#8221;, and that like the proverbial bull in the china closet, the exercise of our power may well create disastrous consequences that cannot be undone.<br />
<h3>Footnotes</h3>
<p> <a name="footnote1">1.</a> The language used to describe these procedures is a tricky and sensitive area.  While the WHO uses the term &#8220;Female Genital Mutilation&#8221;, for an anthropologist this feels like the worst sort of ethnocentrism, implying an aesthetic and moral valuation that is directly at odds with the values of the people who practice these procedures, most of whom describe the procedures as making their genitals cleaner, better, or more attractive.  While &#8220;FGM&#8221; is a popular term among advocacy groups, it has little currency among researchers, who are very aware of the way that language can bias their outcomes.  I have chosen to use the relatively neutral term &#8220;cutting&#8221; (from several alternatives in use among researchers: &#8220;alteration&#8221;, &#8220;surgeries&#8221;, &#8220;modification&#8221;) as it seems to be the most widespread usage and the most plainly descriptive. <a href="#return1">[BACK]</a><a name="footnote2">2.</a> I am, of course, aware of the irony in my stepping forward as a spokesperson for the subaltern; yet again, the subaltern cannot speak, and we must speak for her. As much as possible, I intend to rely on the recorded comments of women who are affected by FGC, and barring that the second-hand accounts by those who have worked directly with them, but ultimately I recognize that my own privilege must necessarily mediate their voices.  It is my hope, though, that if a crack in the wall of anti-FGC advocacy can be opened, it may help to create a space for more first-hand voices. <a href="#return2">[BACK]</a><a name="footnote3">3.</a> I have ignored here the medical research on the harm posed by FGC, for two reasons.  First, as Obermeyer (2003) has shown, much of the medical research is based on faulty premises, defective methodology, and misanalysis of evidence (when it&#8217;s based on evidence at all).  Second, arguments about medical issues caused by FGC seem too often to be a smokescreen for moral arguments; as noted in this paper, very few practices that pose risks as great as or greater than FGC go uncommented by anti-FGC advocates and the Western mainstream alike. <a href="#return3">[BACK]</a></p>
<h3><u>Work Cited</u></h3>
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<blockquote>1993.  Writing Women&#8217;s Worlds: Bedouin Stories. Berkeley: University of California Press.</p></blockquote>
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<blockquote>1997. Womb as Oasis: The Symbolic Context of Pharaonic Circumcision in Rural Northern Sudan.<em>In</em>The Gender/Sexuality Reader: Culture, History, Political Economy. Roger N. Lancaster and Micaela di Leonardo, eds. New York: Routledge. 309-324.</p></blockquote>
<p>Burdick, John.<br />
<blockquote>2000. Female Genital Cutting in Africa: A Second Layer of Cultural Meanings. PowerPoint Presentation. Available online at <a href="http://faculty.maxwell.syr.edu/burdick/encounters%202000/fgc3.ppthttp://faculty.maxwell.syr.edu/burdick/encounters%202000/fgc3.ppt</a>.[PPT]</p></blockquote>
<p> Gruenbaum, Ellen.<br />
<blockquote>2006. Sexuality Issues in the Movement to AbolishFemale Genital Cutting in Sudan. <em>Medical Anthropology Quarterly</em> 20(1): 121-138,</p></blockquote>
<p>Haviland, William A., Harald E.L. Prins, Dana Walrath, and Bunny McBride.<br />
<blockquote>2005. Cultural Anthropology: The Human Challenge. Belmont, CA: Wadsworth.</p></blockquote>
<p>Health24 (website).<br />
<blockquote>n.d. What is anorgasmia?. Accessed June 5, 2006. URL: <a href="http://www.health24.com/sex/Problems/1253-1264,22052.asp" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.health24.com/sex/Problems/1253-1264_22052.asp?referer=');">http://www.health24.com/sex/Problems/1253-1264,22052.asp</a>.</p></blockquote>
<p>Hite, Shere.<br />
<blockquote>2006. The Shere Hite Reader: New and Selected Writings on Sex, Globalization, and Private Life. New York: Seven Stories Press.</p></blockquote>
<p>Johnsdotter, Sara, and Birgitta Essén.<br />
<blockquote>2004. Conference Presentation: Sexual Health among Young Somali Women in Sweden:Living With Conflicting Culturally Determined Sexual Ideologies. Advancing Knowledge on Psycho-Sexual Effects of FGM/C: Assessing the Evidence. Alexandria, Egypt. 10-12 October, 2004. Available online at <a href="http://ask.lub.lu.se/archive/00018019/01/Alexandria2004.pdf" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/ask.lub.lu.se/archive/00018019/01/Alexandria2004.pdf?referer=');">http://ask.lub.lu.se/archive/00018019/01/Alexandria2004.pdf</a>. [PDF]</p></blockquote>
<p>Katz, Jonathan Ned.<br />
<blockquote>2004. The Invention of Heterosexuality. <em>In</em>Race, Class, and Gender in the United States: An Integrated Study, 6th ed.. Paula S. Rothenberg, ed. New York: Worth Publishers. 69-80.</p></blockquote>
<p>Lane, Sandra D. and Robert A. Rubinstein.<br />
<blockquote>1996. Judging the Other. Responding to Traditional Female Genital Surgeries. <em>Hastings Center Report</em> 26(3): 31-40. Available online at <a href="http://faculty.maxwell.syr.edu/rar/Papers/1996%20Judging%20the%20other--Responding.pdf" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/faculty.maxwell.syr.edu/rar/Papers/1996_20Judging_20the_20other--Responding.pdf?referer=');">http://faculty.maxwell.syr.edu/rar/Papers/1996%20Judging%20the%20other&#8211;Responding.pdf</a>.</p></blockquote>
<p>Masters, W.H. and V.E Johnson.<br />
<blockquote>1966. Human Sexual Response. Boston: Little, Brown. </p></blockquote>
<p>Obermeyer, Carla Makhlouf.<br />
<blockquote>2003. The Health Consequences of FemaleCircumcision: Science, Advocacy, and Standards of Evidence. <em>Medical Anthropology Quarterly</em> 17(3): 394-412. Available online at <a href="http://www.artsci.wustl.edu/~anthro/articles/MAQ%20Jul%2003.pdf" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.artsci.wustl.edu/_anthro/articles/MAQ_20Jul_2003.pdf?referer=');"> http://www.artsci.wustl.edu/~anthro/articles/MAQ%20Jul%2003.pdf</a> [PDF]</p></blockquote>
<p>Orubuloye, I. O., Pat Caldwell, and John C. Caldwell<br />
<blockquote>2000. Female &#8220;Circumcision&#8221; Among the Yoruba of Southwestern Nigeria: The Beginning of Change. <em>In</em> Female &#8220;Circumcision&#8221; in Africa: Culture, Controversy, and Change. Bettina Shell-Duncan and Ylva Hernlund, eds. Boulder, CO: Lynne Rienner. 73-94.</p></blockquote>
<p>Shweder, Richard A.<br />
<blockquote>2003. Why Do Men Barbecue? Recipes for Cultural Psychology. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.</p></blockquote>
<p>Spivak, Gayatri.<br />
<blockquote>1988. &#8220;Can the Subaltern Speak?&#8221; <em>In</em> Marxism and the Interpretation of Culture. Cary Nelson and Larry Grossberg, eds. Urbana: Univ. of Illinois Press. 271-313.</p></blockquote>
<p>Walley, Christine J.<br />
<blockquote>1997. Searching for &#8220;Voices&#8221;: Feminism, Anthropology, and the Global Debate over Female Genital Operations. <em>Cultural Anthropology</em> 12(3): 405-438.</p></blockquote>
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		<description><![CDATA[Arwan at Pandagon describes herself as <a href="http://pandagon.net/2006/02/18/pro-sex-anti-porn/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/pandagon.net/2006/02/18/pro-sex-anti-porn/?referer=');">pro-sex, anti-porn</a>, opening up a discussion on the boundaries of pornography and how individuals interact with (or choose not to) those boundaries.  I left a <a href="http://pandagon.net/2006/02/18/pro-sex-anti-porn/#comment-52265" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/pandagon.net/2006/02/18/pro-sex-anti-porn/_comment-52265?referer=');">long comment</a> responding to two of the commentors' posts, both of which concerned me for their projection of assumptions about the nature of porn onto those who produce and consume it.  The comment is in the moderation queue, and I don't know how that works over there, so I figured I'd post it here (plus, I make some points I want to come back to someday, and this site is for storing ideas I want to come back to <a href="http://dwax.org/2006/02/18/pornographic_assumptions/">[Continue reading]</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Arwan at Pandagon describes herself as <a href="http://pandagon.net/2006/02/18/pro-sex-anti-porn/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/pandagon.net/2006/02/18/pro-sex-anti-porn/?referer=');">pro-sex, anti-porn</a>, opening up a discussion on the boundaries of pornography and how individuals interact with (or choose not to) those boundaries.  I left a <a href="http://pandagon.net/2006/02/18/pro-sex-anti-porn/#comment-52265" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/pandagon.net/2006/02/18/pro-sex-anti-porn/_comment-52265?referer=');">long comment</a> responding to two of the commentors&#8217; posts, both of which concerned me for their projection of assumptions about the nature of porn onto those who produce and consume it.  The comment is in the moderation queue, and I don&#8217;t know how that works over there, so I figured I&#8217;d post it here (plus, I make some points I want to come back to someday, and this site is for storing ideas I want to come back to someday):</p>
<blockquote><p>eponymous wrote:”I will agree with you that violent porn, underage porn, exploitative porn, or certain fetish porn are certainly damaging to the women involved in them.”</p>
<p>How do we know that? The women involved in porn are actors performing under pretty highly controlled situations. I’m sure abuses happen in the porn industry — abuses happen at Wal-Mart, which is far more in the public eye, so they’re bound to happen in the porn industry, which almost unexplainably isn’t in the public eye — but the possibility of abuse doesn’t mean we can simply assume abuse across the board.</p>
<p>Lorenzo is right to situate his (?) critique in the consumption of porn imagery, although I have reservations about a critique, even a “structural critique”, that writes the actors and agents involved out of the picture. “The problem with the sex-work industries, from a broader perspective, is that they are premissed on the social construction of womenâ€™s sexuality as consisting primarily or solely of performance to satisfy male sexuality.” Again, though, how do we know that? How far can an analysis of the imagery take us? How much is Lorenzo assuming about the women and men involved in making and consuming porn? And how much of that assumption is based on his own consumption of pornographic images, rather than on personal interaction with the people involved? (I don’t mean to single Lorenzo out here; the argument is an ubiquitous one, he just happens to be representing it in this forum.)</p>
<p>What concerns me is that, if porn is supposed to be so empowering to men and so disempowering to women, if porn is supposed to be so reflective of the male gaze and of male power-fantasies, why are men so intimidated, so uncomfortable about porn? In the (very) few accounts I’ve read based on actual interaction with viewers of porn, one of the recurring theme has been the shame and discomfort porn engenders. Buying porn is, in most cases, done secretly or anonymously. Viewing porn alone, the same. Male homosocial bonding experiences like stag parties and the like in wihch porn is viewed collectively are rife with embarassment and homophobic panic. As I mentioned above, the production and distribution of porn is veiled in secrecy (hence the greater potnetial for abuse), despite the fact that the biggest players in the industry are megacorporations like Marriott and News Corp. For something that’s supposedly so imbrecated with male power, male power sure seems to go to great lengths to dissociate itself from porn!</p>
<p>The question that rarely gets raised is “why do some people consume porn?” One of the reasons it’s so rarely raised is because it’s so hard to do the empirical research that would be needed to answer it, precisely for the reasons I just described. It’s hard to get people to sit still for an interview on their porn viewing habits, and harder still to locate all the people who consume it anonymously via the Internet. So we’re left to fall back on assumptions, whch reflect our own personalities and positions far more than they do those of people who watch porn. And while that may be satisfying, somehow, cutting out the actual subjectivities of the people we’re discussing is a far cry from feminist analysis.</p></blockquote>
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		<description><![CDATA[Twisty of <em>I Blame the Patriarchy</em> offers the flipside of <a href="http://thinknaughty.com/2006/01/09/sex-its-whats-for-dinner/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/thinknaughty.com/2006/01/09/sex-its-whats-for-dinner/?referer=');">my recent discussion of BDSM</a> in <a href="http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/01/28/in-which-the-author-bottoms-out/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/01/28/in-which-the-author-bottoms-out/?referer=');">two</a> <a href="http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/01/26/in-which-the-author-pronounces-on-a-popular-hobby/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/01/26/in-which-the-author-pronounces-on-a-popular-hobby/?referer=');">posts</a> about the patriarchy-affirming nature of even the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safe,_sane_and_consensual" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safe_sane_and_consensual?referer=');">safest, sanest, and consensualist</a> BDSM <a href="http://dwax.org/2006/01/28/bottoming_from_the_top__or_do_femdoms_dream_of_electric_toasters/">[Continue reading]</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Twisty of <em>I Blame the Patriarchy</em> offers the flipside of <a href="http://savageminds.org/2005/12/14/sex-its-whats-for-dinner/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/savageminds.org/2005/12/14/sex-its-whats-for-dinner/?referer=');">my recent discussion of BDSM</a> in <a href="http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/01/28/in-which-the-author-bottoms-out/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/01/28/in-which-the-author-bottoms-out/?referer=');">two</a> <a href="http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/01/26/in-which-the-author-pronounces-on-a-popular-hobby/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/01/26/in-which-the-author-pronounces-on-a-popular-hobby/?referer=');">posts</a> about the patriarchy-affirming nature of even the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safe,_sane_and_consensual" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safe_sane_and_consensual?referer=');">safest, sanest, and consensualist</a> BDSM sexplay.<br />
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While my argument wasn&#8217;t necessarily a <em>defense</em> of BDSM (I admit my difficulty in grasping the appeal of what is, to me, decidedly non-sexy; furthermore, I very much doubt those in the scene need much in the way of &#8220;defense&#8221; from the likes of me) I did highlight how BDSM power roles are intertwined and call into question notions of dominance and submission even as they enact them:</p>
<blockquote><p>While to outsiders (like myself, I must admit), BDSM&#8230; seems centered around degradation and humiliation, for its practitioners there’s something rather more complex at work. BDSM participants, both “tops” (dominant partners, “doms”) and “bottoms” (submissive partners, “subs”), get off on playing with power roles, in a way that is often strikingly subversive. The power that a “dom” enjoys over their “sub” comes with great responsibility for the emotional and erotic satisfaction of the “sub”, as well as for their physical and psychological health&#8230;.</p>
<p>Participants in this kind of play are binding themselves to their partner with promises and gifts of trust, making very explicit the “rights and obligations” that anthropologists see at the root of all social relationships. The question of “who is in control” can become muddied rather quickly.</p></blockquote>
<p>In <a href="http://blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/01/28/in-which-the-author-bottoms-out/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/blog.iblamethepatriarchy.com/2006/01/28/in-which-the-author-bottoms-out/?referer=');">the post in which Twisty bottoms out</a>, she picks up a reader comment from another thread in which the reader, LMYC, writes of her own experiences trying to find a space for her own brand of dominance in the scene:</p>
<blockquote><p>Then I realized that it was just another way for ME to have the responsibility dumped on me — again — to become some goddamned spoiled brat male’s fantasy toy. Or perhaps someone ELSE in this oh-so-like-with-it scene can explain to me why PRECISELY it is that both female submissives AND female dominants are expected to wear EXACTLY THE SAME CLOTHING.</p></blockquote>
<p>I don&#8217;t think LMYC&#8217;s example here makes the point she&#8217;s trying to make &#8212; as far as I can tell, both women <em>and</em> men are constrained by a highly limited &#8220;vocabulary&#8221; of clothing styles in BDSM, all of which is intended to sexualize and fantastisize (to make fantasize-able; alas, &#8220;fantasize&#8221; doesn&#8217;t mean what I&#8217;m saying&#8230;) both female and male bodies &#8212; but the issue of responsibility is, I think, an important one. Western gender roles are built around women&#8217;s suitability and necessity to take on responsibility &#8212; for the home&#8217;s maintenance, for the children&#8217;s upbringing, for the household economy, for the husband&#8217;s transgressions (drinking, cheating, carousing, fighting, etc.), and so on.  And that responsibility is often paralleled by and exercised through her control of access to sex &#8212; men are &#8220;punished&#8221; by their wives&#8217; &#8220;headaches&#8221;. On the flip side, men are given a license for irresponsibility &#8212; for flashy cars and other expensive toys, excessive drinking, boisterous behavior, gambling, &#8220;rubber-necking&#8221;, and so on &#8212; and counter women&#8217;s control of access to sex with the threat of rape.</p>
<p>BDSM often exaggerates these roles, at least where heterosexual couples are involved (I don&#8217;t know how or whether this applies to male-male or female-female BDSM).  Female submissiveness often takes the form of rape fantasy, explicitly or implicitly, with the male dom &#8220;taking what he needs&#8221; regardless of the sub&#8217;s protests.  Likewise, the female dom takes on not just the responsibility of &#8220;safe and sane&#8221; sexplay but also the disciplining, punishing, and in the end <em>mothering</em> role that is ascribed to women in every other context.  What&#8217;s more, her power is exercised specifically through the withholding of sex (unless and until her partner is a &#8220;good boy&#8221;, maybe).</p>
<p>Where I part company from the critics of BDSM at <em>I Blame the Patriarchy</em> (and elsewhere) is in the assumption that the highly ritualized enactment of exaggerated gender roles in BDSM sexplay is necessarily linked to the perpetuation of such roles elsewhere.  Many people who adopt submissive roles do so in direct contradiction to their roles in everyday life, as do many dominants.  The context of &#8220;play&#8221; is important &#8212; we generally play at roles or identities that are not expressed in our daily lives.  The degree of ritualization and even absurdity (of dress, of language, of extremism) suggests a knowing detachment from the everyday. So it&#8217;s not clear how well, or how often, the roles performed in sexplay translate into the rest of participant&#8217;s lives &#8212; or even if they might not be, as I suggested before, actively subversive.</p>
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		<title>Elyce Elucidates: The Gender Politics of Housework</title>
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<blockquote>One key concept to understanding how housework is political is to grasp the concept, developed by sociologist Arlie Hochschild, that housework is work. It is valuable yet undervalued labor because it is unpaid. And the bulk of this unpaid labor, even in dual-career marriages, is done by women, without recognition of this <a href="http://dwax.org/2006/01/10/elyce_elucidates_the_gender_politics_of_housework/">[Continue reading]</a>]]></description>
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<blockquote><p>One key concept to understanding how housework is political is to grasp the concept, developed by sociologist Arlie Hochschild, that housework is work. It is valuable yet undervalued labor because it is unpaid. And the bulk of this unpaid labor, even in dual-career marriages, is done by women, without recognition of this fact.</p></blockquote>
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		<title>Chivalry and the Working Woman</title>
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Nice piece on how &#8220;traditional&#8221; male politeness towards women constrains and undermines women&#8217;s participation in the public sphere:<br />
<blockquote>I like to pay my share of the meal, or treat my [significant other] to a movie on occasion. I like to be involved in major decisions, outside of perhaps a couple surprise parties or whatever. I like being a partner in my relationships, both intimate and friendly. I’m not a delicate flower, and to treat me as such is the deepest insult to my personhood. It is a dismissal of who I am and what I stand for. It is not courteous, it is rude.</p></blockquote>
<p>My own objections are similar, though as a man I&#8217;ve often felt the <em>expectation</em> of chivalry to be as limiting as some women find the <em>application</em> of its &#8220;politeness&#8221; to them.  It&#8217;s a weird thing to realize that, however much you love or respect someone, unless you participate in certain to-my-mind exceedingly corny rituals &#8212; the jump to get the door, the red roses, the heart-shaped chocolates, diamonds on special days, casually getting the check, tasting the wine, etc. &#8212; you are somehow hurting that person.</p>
<p>But my big objection is the classism inherent in chivalry.  Today&#8217;s chivalry dates back to the Victorian era (with some changes &#8212; for instance, the commenter whose brother demanded to stand between her and the street &#8220;to be polite&#8221; was protecting her from mud splashed by passing carriages; these days, though, the man is supposed to stand on the other side, to protect the woman from would-be attackers who might leap out of dark alleys or doorways and snatch her purse) and is the embodiment of the disdain for women&#8217;s bodies as weak and non- or even dysfunctional, and the concomittant conception of women as a man&#8217;s property the value of which needed to be protected.  </p>
<p>The thing is, these notions demanded an income high enough to support them, high enough to allow women to indulge in weakness and delicacy.  Poor women had no such luxury, embroiled in the demanding and often unsafe and unsanitary work of keeping a home (e.g. making soap with lye and rendered fats is neither safe, clean, nor delicate work) or the even less safe, less sanitary, and more physically demanding work ofered by mills and factories.  While the upper-class women of Massachusett&#8217;s Mandarin class endulged in months-long &#8220;laying up&#8221; periods while pregnant, swooning, and the late 19th century romanticization of consumption made possible by medical care that could keep a consumptive woman alive for years, even decades, the working women of Massachusetts, like the millworkers of Lowell, has an average life expectancy of 23-25 years, faced police and even military truncheons when they striked, and were forced off the line in their early 20s when their bodies gave out &#8212; often disabled by the same consumption (tuberculosis) that gave their upper-class &#8220;sisters&#8221; their bright eyes and pale complexions. </p>
<p>The  standard of female treatment encoded in Miss Manners-type rules was a luxury reserved for women who could afford them &#8212; or for members fo the working and nascent middle classes whose notions of &#8220;class&#8221; were shaped by the emulation of their social &#8220;betters&#8221;.  For a Lowell millworker or Lower East Side sweatshop worker or Iowa farmwife, the trappings of chivalry offered empowerment, for themselves and their &#8220;uncouth&#8221; men, and the hope of advancement; of course, the upper-classes profited from the additional expenses that working people were willing to take on to be &#8220;classy&#8221; while remaining comfortably protected from workers clearly identifiable by the obvious (to them) gap between emulation and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Habitus" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Habitus?referer=');">habitus</a>.</p>
<p>[Via <a href="http://uncommonman.mensresourcesinternational.org/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/uncommonman.mensresourcesinternational.org/?referer=');">The Uncommon Man</a>]</p>
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Every time I teach the section on marriage in my Intro to Anthro class, I inevitably face the same question.  The book lists four types of marriage: monogamy, polygyny, polyandry, and group marriage. and someone always asks "What about swingers?" (Of course, I live and teach in Vegas...) The question points to a limitation of the concept of marriage not just for anthropological understanding but even within our own everyday usage.  <a href="http://dwax.org/2006/01/08/when_monogamy_isn't_monogamous/">[Continue reading]</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>Originally posted at <a href="http://savageminds.org/2005/11/16/when-monogamy-isnt-monogamous/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/savageminds.org/2005/11/16/when-monogamy-isnt-monogamous/?referer=');">Savage Minds</a> on November 16, 2005.</em></p>
<p>Every time I teach the section on marriage in my Intro to Anthro class, I inevitably face the same question.  The book lists four types of marriage: monogamy, polygyny, polyandry, and group marriage. and someone always asks &#8220;What about swingers?&#8221; (Of course, I live and teach in Vegas&#8230;) The question points to a limitation of the concept of marriage not just for anthropological understanding but even within our own everyday usage.  </p>
<p>Writers Em and Lo confront these limitations in their current <em>New York Magazine</em> piece <a href="http://newyorkmetro.com/lifestyle/sex/annual/2005/15063/" title="The New Monogamy" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/newyorkmetro.com/lifestyle/sex/annual/2005/15063/?referer=');">The New Monogamy</a>, addressing the kinds of open relationships that some married couples are evolving in order to both maintain their commitment to each other and manage their attractions to other people.  Em and Lo&#8217;s &#8220;new monogamists&#8221; represent a new twist on the more well-established swinger scene, combining professional lifestyles, post-feminism, and a modern psychotherapeutic understanding of sex, relationships, and the self in an attempt to navigate the pitfalls of tradtional marriage in a society increasingly ill-equipped for long-term exclusive bonding.<br />
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There are a couple of irritating quibbles in the article that I&#8217;d like to get out of the way before moving onto the meat of the topic.  First, the framing of the New Monogamy as not just a move away from cultural norms but from human universals is not only gratuitous but wrong.  &#8220;For much of human history,&#8221; the authors write, &#8220;monogamy (or, at least, presumed monogamy) has been the default setting for long-term love.&#8221;  We do not know what sexual/emotional relationships were like &#8220;for much of human history&#8221;, but judging from the ethnographic evidence gathered over the last century or so among today&#8217;s populations, the norm has likely been serial monogamy (as we find in many foraging societies today; see e.g. Marjorie Shostak&#8217;s <em><a href="http://dannyreviews.com/h/Nisa.html" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/dannyreviews.com/h/Nisa.html?referer=');">Nisa</a></em>), likely with numerous temporary relationships &#8220;on the side&#8221;, and polygyny, which is today accepted and often preferred in 80% of contemporary cultures, with no reason to assume it was any less common in &#8220;much of human history&#8221;. Monogamy as practiced in the United States is a function of our particular history, especially the inheritance of British agricultural traditions and the impact of the 19th century Industrial Revolution.</p>
<p>The other issue I have is the constant reiteration of stereotypes of open relationships as the province of either &#8220;earnest, hairy polyamorists&#8221; or &#8220;doughy, middle-aged swingers&#8221;.  While there are obviously precendents for today&#8217;s New Monogamists in the Haight-Ashbury hippie culture of the Free Love generation and in the key parties and wife-swapping of &#8217;70s suburbia, various kinds of open relationships have been practiced from the dawn of American history (to their credit, Em and Lo mention the 19th century utopian Oneida Colony) and have cut across a wide range of American social strata.  The point that their subjects come from neither a bohemian subculture nor a suburban middle-class but rather a professional, urban, and upwardly mobile mainstream can be made without the repeated images of purple muumuus and Tupperware.  </p>
<p>With those objections out of the way, I can move onto the more substantial topics at the heart of the article.  Em and Lo speak with a selection of couples &#8212; straight and gay, as well as mixed straight/bi relationships (on which more later) &#8212; who are struggling to accomodate their decidedly non-monogamous sexual desires while continuing to nurture the marriage commitments that they still find meaningful.  Ranging from shared fanstasization about <em>Friends</em>&ndash;style fantasy lists of famous people and collaborative surfing of online personals to fully open sexual relations, each of the couples has attempted to divorce their sexual desires from the romantic committment of their marriage without divorcing their spouses. For instance, Diane and her boyfriend have agreed to allow flirting, dirty phone talk, and cybersex over IM, &#8220;as long as no one ends up actually making out with anyone else&#8221;; Mike and Jessica indulge in three&ndash;ways, four&ndash;ways, and even a full-blown orgy; William and Dan have a closed relationship &#8212; unless one or the other is out of town; and Siege and Katie follow a code of &#8220;body-fluid monogamy&#8221;, indulging in safe sex with whomever they like, even in their home while the other is busy in the other room. </p>
<p>The key to these relationships &#8212; as Ann Landers could have told you, if the word <em>menage-&agrave;-trois</em> had been in her vocabulary &#8212; seems to be communication.  Many of the partners had seen previous relationships dissolve when their partner cheated on them, and in retrospect many felt that it was not the cheating so much as the erosion of trust and honesty which had created the problem.  So they share fantasies, experiences, and even partners, all under the aegis of pre-negotiated rules, in order to preserve the trust relationship and (hopefully) forestall jealousy, suspicion, and betrayal.</p>
<p>Trust, sharing, communication, honesty, commitment &#8212; the language is straight out of Oprah and reflects an intersection of &#8217;70s self-realization, 80s self-help and relationship manuals, and &#8217;90s post-feminism. The  women in these relationships are active professionals, empowered both by their social status and by their own sexualities, unwilling to limit their sexual urges for the sake of a husband like their mothers and grandmothers were typically expected to do &#8212; and like their fathers and grandfathers were <em>not</em> expected or obligated to do.  The arrangements featured in this article have been designed as much out of the women&#8217;s need to assert and satisfy their sexual needs and desires as for the men&#8217;s, and explicitly with equality in mind. </p>
<p>One of the pull-quotes in the article notes that, with all the concern for communication and equality between partners, &#8220;perhaps this time around, seventies-style swinging and slutting will actually be feasible &#8212; and fair.&#8221; And yet it bears asking whether this assumption of equality has been realized in actuality. The easy response is that given the label &#8220;slutty&#8221; and the lack of an equivalent label for men engaged in the same behavior, there is still an obvious inequality &#8212; but I think the issue runs much deeper than that.</p>
<p>How much deeper begins to be clear when Em and Lo breach the subject of bisexuality.  In many of these set-ups, the men are straight and the women bi, and rules have been adopted limiting both husband and wife to female extramarital partners. For the men, the thought of another man involving himself in their relationship is threatening in a way that another women&#8217;s involvement is not; consider Siege&#8217;s statement that &#8220;I just don&#8217;t want her messing around with other guys.  Because I don&#8217;t find men attractive, my only instinct would be to punch them.&#8221;  All of the mixed-sex couples seem much more willing to experiment with <em>her</em> sexuality than with his.</p>
<p>While the article suggests a couple of explanations for this double-standard, only one of them really seems to get at the reality of sexuality in the 21st century.  It&#8217;s unlikely that women are, by nature, simply &#8220;more fluid&#8221; sexually, especially given the incredible restraints around any expression of male homosexuality; it&#8217;s also unlikely that women have more sexual freedom than men in our society, given the way so many other aspects of their lives are socially programmed.  At the same time, none of the women seemed to express the feeling that she was being made to perform for the benefit of her partner &#8212; and given their economic and personal independence, I find this a doubtful proposition in any case.  But I think the authors are moving in the right direction when they guess that &#8220;It could be that sexually speaking, women are just not taken seriously: Hot, yes, but as sex toys, not real romantic threats.&#8221;</p>
<p>The idea of women as &#8220;sex toys&#8221;, as objects to be acquired, used, and either discarded or grown out of jibes well with the commodification of sex in general in our increasingly consumeristic society.  Sex has come to stand alongside other entertainments as a way of expressing our individual identities, like the choice of a double grande mocha latte, the latest art house film, or an indie CD. One person likes Fellini, another likes fellatio &#8212; to each his own. (Or her own, but that would ruin the rhtyhm of the cliche now, wouldn&#8217;t it?) </p>
<p>The marketing of sex as product, though, is much more easily achieved in the case of women&#8217;s sexuality than men&#8217;s.  As John Berger noted (<em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0140135154/103-0368238-4723035?v=glance" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0140135154/103-0368238-4723035?v=glance&amp;referer=');">Ways of Seeing</a></em>, 1972), gender roles in Western societies can be summed up by the simple maxim: &#8220;men act and women appear&#8221; (47). To commodify a woman&#8217;s sexuality, to objectify it and make it available for consumption, is easy because we are already predisposed to do so; men&#8217;s sexuality, however, is wrapped up with notions of virility, strength, and power &#8212; aspects of character as much as or even more than of appearance.  I had a graphic illustration of this in a recent classroom discussion on gender, when I asked why so many women find John Goodman sexy.  &#8220;He has character,&#8221; one of my female students responded.  When I noted that Roseanne Barr has lots of character and asked if she was also sexy, I received a chorus of &#8220;no&#8217;s&#8221; &#8212; and the same student replied that &#8220;Character doesn&#8217;t count for women.&#8221;  </p>
<p>Many of the women Em and Lo spoke with summed up this attitude quite nicely, saying they were &#8220;sexually, but not romantically, attracted to other women&#8221;.  That is, they were interested in other women because they found them physically attractive, but were unwilling or unable to imagine other women as potentially meaningful partners in life.  For their male partners, then, there was little risk in seeing their wives getting it on with other women &#8212; no more risk than seeing their wives pick out a brand of coffee or a DVD. You don&#8217;t lose your wife to a product.</p>
<p>You lose your wife to other men, though.  Men are agents, not products, and neither the men interviewed nor most of the women could as easily divorce their sexual attraction to men from the potential for romantic involvement the way they could with women. This resonates well with the way many men fetishize lesbianism, even as they deeply fear anything that even faintly smacks of male homoeroticism.  When a woman makes out with other women, she&#8217;s &#8220;bi&#8221;; any contact with another man though, especially a gay man, is tinged with panic that the encounter might reveal a man to be &#8212; or even worse, turn him &#8212; &#8220;gay&#8221;. Because male sexuality is premised on character and not superficial appearance, a man&#8217;s attraction to another man &#8212; or a women&#8217;s attraction to another man &#8212; implies a deeper level of commitment than the consumerism satisfied by the consumption of other women as &#8220;living, breathing sex objects&#8221;.</p>
<p>The danger of shifting commitment obviously poses a threat to the marriages that the men and women in Em and Lo&#8217;s piece are struggling to negotiate.  In a society like ours, with personalities both shaped by enculturation practices to be independent and self-serving and to be focused strongly around sexuality as the core of the self, marriage as traditionally understood seems artificially limiting &#8212; and we have been trained to see such limits as challenges. The commodification of sexuality is not just a temptation threatening to destabilize the institution of marriage, but can be seen also as an accomodation to that institution, a way of allowing expression of our consumeristic, sexualized selves <em>without</em> further destabilizing the relationship. The stress on &#8220;cheating&#8221; is important in this regard &#8212; in their former relationships, without the possibility for acceptible extramarital sex, the partners were forced to resort to secrecy and dishonesty, which eventually undermined their emotional bonds with their partners, making it all the more likely that they would seek romantic, as well as sexual, release with their new partners. By limiting extramarital encounters to the purely sexual, these couples are trying to prevent the erosion of their romantic relationships &#8212; thus making the extramarital relationships into a supplement, rather than a replacement, for their relationships with their spouses.</p>
<p>Of course, we might ask why such a supplement is necessary in the first place, but I think it&#8217;s fairly clear.  If we did not seek something new, different, and exciting, we would not be very good consumers &#8212; and we are <em>very</em> good consumers! And if we did not do everything in our power to attain the objects of our desires, if we did not view social restrictions as obstacles to be overcome, we would not be very good individualists &#8212; and we are not only good individualists, but we <em>have</em> to be to function in our highly mobile, highly specialized society.  As women have become more and more expected to function as workers and participants in the public sphere, the role of monogamous wife has become as untenable as the role of monogamous husband has been for centuries.</p>
<p>It may be that the institution of marriage itself is becoming untenable, and the couples in this article are not the vanguard of a New Monogamy but are rather leading a fighting retreat.  More and more people find marriage simply unnecessary to their lifestyles &#8212; what with professional obligations requiring more and more frequent travel, the difficulty of finding satisfying work in the same place as your partner, the risk of boredom in the face of lifelong commitment, and the failure of more than half of the marriages in oursociety, marriage seems particularly ill-suited to modern living.  Increasing numbers of people are turning to short-term relationships, casual encounters, and alternatives to long-term monogamous relationships that better fit the demands of their lives.  The rise of polyamory &#8212; semi-closed networks of friends and lovers often spread out over several cities &#8212; represents one adaptation to these demands. It may well be that the only thing supporting traditional marriage in Western society is the fear of disease; as new treatments for STDs become available, we may well see the end of marriage altogether, or at least its diminishment as a primary organizer of social relations.</p>
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		<title>Sex: It&#8217;s What&#8217;s for Dinner</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[<em>Originally posted at <a href="http://savageminds.org/2005/12/14/sex-its-whats-for-dinner/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/savageminds.org/2005/12/14/sex-its-whats-for-dinner/?referer=');">Savage Minds</a> on December 14, <a href="http://dwax.org/2006/01/08/sex_its_whats_for_dinner/">[Continue reading]</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>Originally posted at <a href="http://savageminds.org/2005/12/14/sex-its-whats-for-dinner/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/savageminds.org/2005/12/14/sex-its-whats-for-dinner/?referer=');">Savage Minds</a> on December 14, 2005.</em></p>
<p>The connection between eating and having sex is a fairly obvious one.  Many of the words we use to describe sexual desire (hunger, voracious appetite) and sex acts themselves (eating out, munching), and even various body parts (my favorite: &#8220;the split knish&#8221;) refer to food &#8212; an obvious parallel given the importance of the mouth to both eating and sex. The connection is deeper than just slang, though &#8212; Edmund Leach noted in 1964 that the way we categorize the animals we eat and the way we categorize potential sex partners are parallel as well (at least in mid-century Britain): women and animals that live in the home (sisters, dogs) are off-limits for eating and/or sex; animals and women that live outside the domestic sphere (cattle and other animals that roam more or less freely, neighbors) are potential sex and marriage partners; and the truly exotic, those living entirely outside of the familiar world altogether (emu, Africans &#8212; from a British perspective) are neither food nor sex partners.  Among the Arapesh and Adelam peoples studied by Margaret Mead (1935), a man could eat neither one&#8217;s own yams and pigs nor one&#8217;s own mother and sister, while:<br />
<blockquote>Other people&#8217;s mothers<br />Other people&#8217;s sisters<br />Other people&#8217;s pigs<br />Other people&#8217;s yams which they have piled up<br />You may eat (Mead: 78).</p></blockquote>
<p>With such a thin line between eating and &#8220;eating&#8221;, it seems unsurprising that some people would seek to combine the two more explicitly.  Enter the <a href="http://villagevoice.com/people/index.php?issue=0550&#038;page=gates&#038;id=70911" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/villagevoice.com/people/index.php?issue=0550_038_page=gates_038_id=70911&amp;referer=');">cann-fetish</a> (some  explicit langauge, probably not worksafe) &#8212; cannibal fetishism (or cannibalism fetish). While many of us are familiar with the case of Armin Meiwes, the German man convicted recently of killing and eating a partner he met and coordinated the killing with over the Internet, Meiwes represents an extreme distortion of what is becoming a significant, if small, fetish community. For the most part, cann-fetishists stop short of actually eating or hurting anyone, rather endulging in a rather elaborate pretend-feast involving trussing the &#8220;meal&#8221; (generally a willing female, who is bound and whose various orifices will be poked, prodded, and filled with various trimmings and cooking implements), coating her (or, apparently far more rarely, him) with oil, butter, honey, and other basting substances, and &#8220;cooking&#8221; her in a make-believe oven.<br />
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Given the elaborate bindings and the rich fantasy elements, it would not be too far off the mark to describe cann-fetishism as a sub-genre of BDSM (bondage/domination/sado-masochism), replacing the leather-and-chains aesthetic with a playful June Cleaver look.  Central to both &#8220;mainstream&#8221; BDSM and cann-fetishism is the (voluntary) passivity and objectivization of the subject &#8212; as one enthusiast puts it, &#8220;I like to think I&#8217;m inanimate, without a conscience. There&#8217;s a feeling of transcendence when I&#8217;m being transformed.&#8221;  For the subject, there&#8217;s also an element of exhibitionism, of being the center of attention.  The same woman says, &#8220;It&#8217;s the same attention you give the turkey on Thanksgiving. Everybody is just obsessed with that turkey. Ooooooh, the turkey the turkey the turkey. When is the turkey going to be done? It&#8217;s so exciting!&#8221;</p>
<p>While to outsiders (like myself, I must admit), BDSM, including cann-fetishism, seems centered around degradation and humiliation, for its practitioners there&#8217;s something rather more complex at work. BDSM participants, both &#8220;tops&#8221; (dominant partners, &#8220;doms&#8221;) and &#8220;bottoms&#8221; (submissive partners, &#8220;subs&#8221;), get off on playing with power roles, in a way that is often strikingly subversive. The power that a &#8220;dom&#8221; enjoys over their &#8220;sub&#8221; comes with great responsibility for the emotional and erotic satisfaction of the &#8220;sub&#8221;, as well as for their physical and psychological health. Consider this piece of advice from <a href="http://www.dsguide.net/index.asp?page=chapter2" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.dsguide.net/index.asp?page=chapter2&amp;referer=');">The Beginners Guide to Dominance and Submission</a> (the first website I cam across googling <a href="http://www.google.com/search?q=domination+submission+rules" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.google.com/search?q=domination+submission+rules&amp;referer=');">domination+submission+rules</a>):<br />
<blockquote>The Dom should not arbitrarily punish the sub on a whim. There must be a reason. To do otherwise will break down the trust and security of the sub. The Dom has to be respected by the sub. Respect is a quality that is earned by the Dom being right, and issuing swift, correct justice and reward to the sub. The Dom is not there to inflict pain and degradation on the sub, but to give the sub a goal and a direction on how to love and please him.</p></blockquote>
<p>Participants in this kind of play are binding themselves to their partner with promises and gifts of trust, making very explicit the &#8220;rights and obligations&#8221; that anthropologists see at the root of all social relationships.  The question of &#8220;who is in control&#8221; can become muddied rather quickly.</p>
<p>What sets cann-fetishists apart in this regard is not so much the ritual consumption of the &#8220;sub&#8221; as the rich semiotic and aesthetic stew in which their particlar brand of BDSM is marinated.  Unlike the pseudo-fascistic trappings of &#8220;mainstream&#8221; BDSM, cann-fetishism (or at least the kind described in the article) draws on &#8212; and, I believe, subverts &#8212; images of domestic bliss straight out of &#8220;Leave It to Beaver&#8221; and &#8220;The Donna Reed Show&#8221;, images laden with power relations between dominant husbands and submissive wives only a short step away from climbing onto the table and offering their own bodies up for the sustenence of their families. Which is to say, only a short step away from devolving from the height of &#8220;civilized&#8221; living to the worst stereotypes of &#8220;primitive&#8221; cannibalism. One of the cann-fetishists in the article even collects old-fashioned gag images of cannibals boiling their victim in giant stew-pots, &agrave; la <a href="http://www.offthemarkcartoons.com/cartoons/1996-07-23.gif" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.offthemarkcartoons.com/cartoons/1996-07-23.gif?referer=');">this image</a>. Although tinged with a kind of nostalgia, the parodic &#8220;Ozzie and Harriet&#8221; aesthetic represents a conscious break with and rejection of these roles, reserving them for &#8220;playtime&#8221; and transforming them into scenes of orgiastic perversion.  I doubt very much June Cleaver ever used the word &#8220;assplay&#8221;.</p>
<p>[Thanks to Jill at <a href="http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2005/12/13/etc-etc/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2005/12/13/etc-etc/?referer=');">Feministe</a> for the link.]</p>
<p><u>Work Cited</u></p>
<p>Leach, Edmund. 1964. &#8220;Anthropological Aspects of Language: Animal Categories and Verbal Abuse.&#8221; In <em>New Directions in the Study of Language</em>, ed. Eric Lenneberg. Cambridge, MA: MIT Press. Pp. 23 &#8211; 64.</p>
<p>Mead, Margaret. 1935 [2001]. Sex and Temperament in Three Primitive Societies. New York: Harper Perennial.</p>
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		<title>Evolving Consent</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[<a href="http://www.amptoons.com/blog/archives/2006/01/06/bondage-and-patriarchy/#comments" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.amptoons.com/blog/archives/2006/01/06/bondage-and-patriarchy/_comments?referer=');">Bondage and Patriarchy</a>
Fabulous post and comment thread on Alas, a Blog about BDSM -- the eroticisation of power, the operation and definition of consent, the role of fantasy, and <a href="http://dwax.org/2006/01/08/evolving_consent/">[Continue reading]</a>]]></description>
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Fabulous post and comment thread on Alas, a Blog about BDSM &#8212; the eroticisation of power, the operation and definition of consent, the role of fantasy, and more.</p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have a healthy dose of respect for <a href="http://hugoboy.typepad.com/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/hugoboy.typepad.com/?referer=');">Hugo Schwyzer</a>, and find myself paying closer and closer attention to him as I enter a situation much like his, a male instructor in a Women&#8217;s Studies program.  I don&#8217;t always agree with Hugo, but I&#8217;m always impressed by the way he deals with often sensitive and often highly personal topics.  In this post, <a href="http://hugoboy.typepad.com/hugo_schwyzer/2006/01/the_discussion_.html#comment-12650816" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/hugoboy.typepad.com/hugo_schwyzer/2006/01/the_discussion_.html_comment-12650816?referer=');">&#8220;But you&#8217;re pretty&#8221;: a pro-feminist musing on why compliments don&#8217;t help</a>, Hugo responds to the <a href="http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2006/01/04/a-follow-up/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2006/01/04/a-follow-up/?referer=');">targeting</a> of Jill at Feministe on a bulletin board at her school, where students posted and then viciously attacked photographs of her.  That women are judged, marginalized, and even endangered by their looks is a cornerstone of feminist thought, but to see it in practice is still horrifying.  Hugo addresses the converse of this &#8212; how compliments can be threatening and marginalizing, even when well-intentioned:<br />
<blockquote>How many bad pick-up lines start with overzealous praise of a woman&#8217;s appearance?  Men use these lines because as hackneyed as they are, they know sometimes they work.   By the time they reach college, most men recognize that a great many women are deeply and profoundly hungry for praise, and by offering that praise, guys will be able to gain an opening.  When men praise the beauty of women they barely know, they are employing an old patriarchal strategy that preys upon a serious vulnerability. </p></blockquote>
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		<title>Pornography and Representation</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[In the last couple days, I've come across two interesting critiques of <a href="http://dwax.org/2006/01/05/pornography_and_representation/">[Continue reading]</a>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In the last couple days, I&#8217;ve come across two interesting critiques of pornography.  The first is <a href="http://www.zmag.org/content/print_article.cfm?itemID=9272&#038;sectionID=91" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.zmag.org/content/print_article.cfm?itemID=9272_038_sectionID=91&amp;referer=');">Pornography Is A Left Issue</a> (via Lauren at <a href="http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2006/01/03/long-due-corral/" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2006/01/03/long-due-corral/?referer=');">Feministe</a>) by Gail Dines and Robert Jensen, which addresses pornography as corporate media (which it surely is &#8212; the top distributors of pornography are your friendly neighborhood cable and satellite companies, including Rupert Murdoch&#8217;s DirecTV, and your homes away from home, the major hotel/motel chains); the second is blac(k)ademic&#8217;s <a href="http://blackademic.blogspot.com/2006/01/why-pornography-harms-women-of-color.html" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/blackademic.blogspot.com/2006/01/why-pornography-harms-women-of-color.html?referer=');">Why Pornography Harms Women of Color</a> (via reappropriate&#8217;s <a href="http://www.reappropriate.com/2006/01/carnival-of-feminists-issue-6.html" onclick="pageTracker._trackPageview('/outgoing/www.reappropriate.com/2006/01/carnival-of-feminists-issue-6.html?referer=');">Carnival of Feminists 6</a>), an attack on the explicit racism that fuels much of today&#8217;s pornography.  Both are deeply thought and deeply felt critiques that raise a number of important points, but are ultimately unsuccessful as arguments against pornography in general.  </p>
<p>blac(k)ademic&#8217;s post is inspired by the high number of websurfers that find her site via searches for racial/racist porn. The meat of blac(k)ademic&#8217;s argument is that:<br />
<blockquote>pornography hurts women of color, because it reproduces the racist imagery assigned to brown bodies. when people type in &#8220;black lesbian bitches,&#8221; or &#8220;lesbian niggers&#8221; [on search engines] they are perpetuating the dehumanizing stigma attached to all women of color. the only thing that is different, is that pornography suppossedly makes these racist ideals sexy or desireable. it absolves racism as it is turned into a seemingly harmless sexual gratification.</p></blockquote>
<p>I&#8217;m not entirely convinced that this is an argument against pornography so much as it an argument against the type of people or the type of desires serviced by pornography.  The strength (or weakness) of the argument relies on how much of a role you believe pornography plays in shaping those desires; I tend to think &#8220;not very much&#8221;, noting for example that dehumanizing sexual relationships between white men and women of color predate the modern pornography industry by several hundred years.  Neither do I think racism is &#8220;absolved&#8221; by the gloss of desire &#8212; the rationale here being, I think, that &#8220;if I were racist, I wouldn&#8217;t wanna fuck black chicks, now would I?&#8221;  The reality is aptly described by blac(k)ademic a few paragraphs later: &#8220;the sickening part of it is, is that, when people&#8230;i assume men, young men or boys, look for &#8220;lesbian niggers,&#8221; they are relating their sexual arousal with racial hate.&#8221;  Racism is not glossed over by racial porn, it is the <em>object</em> of it. </p>
<p>But raising the issue of racism in porn begs the question of whether blac(k)ademic would not be against porn if there were <em>no</em> racial porn.  Is it just a particular type of porn that&#8217;s &#8220;bad&#8221;, or is it the nature of pornography itself? This question haunts Dines and Jensen&#8217;s piece, which advocates a strong anti-pornography stand as part of the mainstream liberal position.<br />
<blockquote>As leftists, we reject the sexism and racism that saturates contemporary mass-marketed pornography. As leftists, we reject the capitalist commodification of one of the most basic aspects of our humanity. As leftists, we reject corporate domination of media and culture. Anti-pornography feminists are not asking the left to accept a new way of looking at the world but instead are arguing for consistency in analysis and application of principles.</p></blockquote>
<p>Leftists regularly challenge representations of women, homosexuals, Blacks, Asians, Hispanics, Jews, Arabs, workers, and so on in the mainstream press, while &#8220;giving a pass&#8221; to troubling representations in pornography.  This is troubling not only because the nature of pornographic representation is so often racist and misogynist, but becuase for all intents and purposes, pornography <em>is</em> mainstream media.  Pornography is no longer an underground, even criminal, business but is produced and distributed by some of the world&#8217;s largest corporations &#8212; and produces revenues outweighing the entirety of American professional sports.<br />
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The strength of this approach, however, is also its weakness.  The corporate media produces sexist, racist, and classist representations, it&#8217;s true &#8212; and pornography is no exception:<br />
<blockquote>Despite naïve (or disingenuous) claims about pornography as a vehicle for women&#8217;s sexual liberation, the bulk of mass-marketed pornography is incredibly sexist. From the ugly language used to describe women, to the positions of subordination, to the actual sexual practices themselves &#8212; pornography is relentlessly misogynistic. As the industry &#8220;matures&#8221; the most popular genre of films, called &#8220;gonzo,&#8221; continues to push the limits of degradation of, and cruelty toward, women.</p></blockquote>
<p>No argument there &#8212; but then we&#8217;re objecting to a specific kind of imagery, not to pornography in general.  When leftists critique the news, or movies, or sitcoms, they&#8217;re arguing for better news coverage, better representations of women and minorities in movies and TV programming; somehow, though, I do not get the impression that this is what Dines and Jensen are asking of pornographers.  Rather, they are not &#8220;pro-better pornopgraphy&#8221; but explicitly &#8220;anti-pornography&#8221;, ostensibly supporting some kind of anti-porn legislation like the <a href=http://www.nostatusquo.com/ACLU/dworkin/OrdinanceModelExcerpt.html">Dworkin-MacKinnon ordinances</a>.  But if we are to legislate against certain kinds of representations &#8212; of women, of minorities, of whomever &#8212; and if pornography is just another form of mainstream media, then the focus on pornography seems a little misplaced. After all, however popular, porn is consumed by only a small fraction of the number of people who regularly consume similarly degrading, sexist, racist, and otherwise offensive representations that make up prime-time television, or women&#8217;s magazines, or Hollywood blockbusters.</p>
<p>Now, we can and should be critical of degrading representations wherever they occur, and maybe we should even outlaw <am>all</am> forms of such imagery (bye bye <em>Man Show</em>) &#8212; but this doesn&#8217;t explain or justify the persistent singling out of pornography, nor is it likely to affect corporate control of the media, which will simply shift its focus to different ways of commodifying and alienating our bodies.    What I&#8217;m wondering is if there&#8217;s anything particular about pornography, anything <em>essential</em> to the medium/genre itself that merits drawing a sharp distinction between it and other forms of corporate media? Sharp enough, anyway, that the idea of an &#8220;anti-pornography&#8221; stance seems rational, while an &#8220;anti-media&#8221; stance&#8230; not so much. Is it possible to portray sexual relations in a way that is <em>not</em> degrading to women or minorities? </p>
<p>A tentative answer might explore some of those representations that are <em>de facto</em> not degrading to women or minorities &#8212; those in which either women and minorities do not appear, or those in which women or minorities are represented in empowered ways.  The first would include, of course, gay male porn (I&#8217;m sure there&#8217;s racial gay porn &#8212; but as with all racial porn, I think we have to ask whether the portrayal of racialized subjects is different, either quantitatively or qualitatively, from representations of non-racialized subjects &#8212; and how it differs).  Feminist anti-porn writings rarely consider gay porn, which is a shame because most of the tropes that feminists discuss (the woman held up to the male gaze, the violent or pseudo-violent rape or gang-rape of a woman, the ominpresent female sexual receptivity, etc.) are necessarily absent from gay porn. The second kind of porn might be harder to find and identify &#8212; I would guess that the &#8220;new wave&#8221; of female-produced &#8220;woman friendly&#8221; porn might qualify, or lesbian-produced porn.  Another possibility might be, ironically enough, S&#038;M-related porn, in which the same qualities that anti-porn critics find offensive in depictions of women bound, gagged, tortured, and otherwise dominated are very often present in depictions of men, often stereotypically represented as strong and powerful, likewise bound, humilaiated, and dominated.  Does the semiology (maybe I mean semiography) of the image change when the subject is a man instead of a woman? How, and why?</p>
<p>I cannot answer these questions, but I think they are crucial to our understanding not only of misogyny, racism, male/white privilege, and so on, but of the commodification and alientation that have become central characteristics our our societies and of our selves in our societies.  The reason many leftists are hesitant to challenge pornographic representations, why many lionize pornographers like Larry Flynt (but, interestingly, not Hugh Hefner), is that while many are uncomfortable with the imagery of pornography, they are also uncomfortable with the explicit anti-sex message that pornography&#8217;s <em>other</em> critics, conservatives an religious fundamentalists, have embedded in <em>their</em> characterization of pornography.  Depictions of sexual activity challenge the kinds of bodily control that is the goal of those who are not only anti-porn, but anti-birth control, anti-abortion, anti-sex education, anti-gay marriage, and so on &#8212; and often provide rallying points in the opposition of sex-unfriendly forces in our society.  </p>
<p>And yet, many anti-anti-porn leftists are not actually regular consumers of porn (including myself), for exactly the reasons Dines, Jensen, and blac(k)ademic describe.  My own feeling is that a) pornography has a function (or functions) in our society that has nothing to do with the objectification of women, and b) that it is possible to depict and even celebrate sex, even &#8220;weird&#8221; sex, in ways that are not demeaning to the represented participants (as distinct, I must note, from the <em>actual</em> participants, the models and actors involved, which is a different subject and deserves more consideration later &#8212; but, quickly, who tend to have a range of responses to their work ranging from disgust to feelings of empowerment).  Thus, while not embracing the strong anti-pornography stand of Dines and Jensen, and in fact opposing it, I feel that their critiques, and those of blac(k)ademic and of so many others, are necessary for creating a better understanding of both how power works in our society and how those whom power works against might become better empowered. </p>
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